Pancake House!! from the Flat Hat!

Confusion Corner: Pancake supper: better than blowout


By Kevin Mooney April 28, 2009
I stumble through the doors of the Sadler Center at the usual hour, midnight or close to it. The line is long, but we patiently — though perhaps not quietly — slink our way through the Sadler Center entrance way. The semester’s been a tough one, and by now we’re sick of it all. There’s only one thing that can help. And them’s pancakes.
Pancake House, the night at the end of the semester where pancakes are provided free of cost to all who come to the Sadler Center, is really one of the greater traditions at the College of William and Mary, right behind a combined commitment to academic achievement and Sliders Sundays at the Caf. Students have finished their classes, not yet started to fret over their finals, and have but one goal in mind: We’ve got a fever, and the only prescription is more pancakes.

As is probably obvious, Pancake House and I have a sort of shared understanding, we get each other. If you’ve attended the event in past semesters, chances are I’ve attempted to explain to you — ad nauseum, my ardent love of pancakes — and of any house that would choose to produce them. Perhaps I was a tad incoherent at the time, drunk as I was off the many-splendored syrups of the House, but the point is no less valid. I’ve taken it as my goal to convince as many as possible, not just to attend Pancake House — such a decision is too simple to even be considered — but to understand it, to appreciate it, to love it.

Part of the magic of Pancake House is its timing. It bestows pancakes on a population that is in particularly dire need of them — some who’ve dreamed of them for weeks, some whose physical well-being the next morning is contingent upon it. And sure, one would only have to wait mere hours for the SC to begin serving pancakes the following Saturday morning, but now is not the time to wait. Today: Blowout? Last Day of Classes? The day several high-functioning alcoholics are born? Call it what you may, it is not a time for waiting. It is a time for action, a time for pancakes.

This may seem like a trivial event to some, something to be taken lightly. However, this is far from the case. Something important is happening here. It’s a utopia of sorts — a coming together of minds, a celebration of our combine freedom from academic burden. And we’ve chosen the most noble of foods — egalitarian in its shape, but individual in its choice of toppings — around which to celebrate.

Yet more importantly, it unites two groups of people who would, in all other circumstances, keep entirely separate. Let’s call them the weary and the perky; those in need of pancakes and those providing them. It’s a symbiotic relationship, really (I mean, who else would they make pancakes for?). Each comes together to form a community — a substantial, albeit fleeting one — that exists outside of mere society. We’ve all come to a you-scratch-my-back-I’ll-just-sit-here-while-that-happens sort of agreement. Everybody wins.

What if the world could be one great, big pancake house? What if we could, if only momentarily, put aside all our petty differences and work together towards a common goal, which is getting me some pancakes. What a wonderful place that would be.

Now, I’m not going to pretend I know how Pancake House works. I feel like no one really does. It’s a mystery to mere mortals such as myself — to be marveled at, but never fully understood, like Stonehenge or the Chupacabra. We may never know just how, or why, Pancake House came to be, but still we will rejoice. And there shall be syrups. Syrups of every shade and taste.

So come, eat drink and be merry. For tomorrow, we die of exhaustion.

Kevin Mooney is a Flat Hat Confusion Corner columnist. He rejoices in syrup options.

A Personal Application

This is a recent post from a friend of mine who blogs over at Withoutwax.tv I was challenged to 'take the challenge' perhaps you are too! We are only a day behind. Let me know if you are in!

We have been camped out in Matthew 6:33 where Jesus said “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”

When it comes to seeking first the Kingdom of God one area of my life I’ve been failing is simply time with God.

We live in a day of unprecedented opportunities to stimulate our minds. We have blogs, television, and 24-hour news. We have ipods, dvd players, and radios in our cars. Everywhere we go there is some kind of message trying to bombard our minds. And honestly, I’ve allowed all the noise to keep me from seeking God as I should.

Francis Chan said,

We think He’s a great Savior, but not a great role model. The American church has abandoned the most simple and obvious truth of what it means to follow Jesus: You actually follow His pattern of life.

One of the the obvious patterns of Jesus’s life was time with God. Over and over again in the Gospels we see where Jesus would “withdraw” to be alone with his Father. And this pattern while repeated over and over by Jesus has been missing in my life as of late.

I bet I’m not alone. So here comes the 28 day challenge. I noticed there just happens to be 28 days between now and Easter. There also happens to be 28 chapters in the book of Matthew. What if we committed together to just read one chapter a day?

This is our opportunity to “seek first the Kingdom of God” together. I’ve never tried anything like this here on Without Wax, but I thought it would be a great way to hold each other accountable. I’ll try to periodically blog about certain observations from the texts we’re reading through.

Will it make a difference? You’ll never know unless you try.

Chapter one starts today!

What does my soul tell me about myself?

This question was asked on a Staff day of Spiritual Retreat. It was hard to answer. I guess I do not usually talk to my soul. But I thought it was worth a shot.

So Soul... What do you say? How'm I doin?

Well Marty, there is some good news and some bad news.

First the bad news... You have a lot of room for improvement before these earthly days are over. You are making some headway, but you are still trying to direct me (Marty's soul) through your day to day events - especially the difficult ones. For some reason you are convinced that you know better about running your life than the One who saved you does. I'm serious! You are constantly telling Him about how you need this and help with that. And if it wasn't for this circumstance, then life (for you) would be so much better. But He already knows what is best for you. He has already gone over it in His mind (the Mind of God, get it?). So part of your life needs to help you re-establish connection with my (Marty's soul) work with the Holy One to guide & protect you. Be patient dear one, We are at work bringing you into full glory! So that when these earthly days are over, you will be prepared to walk from this Kingdom living into His Kingdom Glory!

Now the good news, You have begun to learn to talk with Him. We have been doing it together. I know it is hard and different. --- do you remember when you were learning to play racquetball, how weird it felt in all ways. You couldn't turn your arm right. You couldn't run right. You had hand-eye coordination problems. But eventually you got it - you even had that wicked Z-serve, one inch off the floor in the left front wall about 90% 0f the time! --- That is what this new prayer time is all about. Keep at it: Pray His words back to Him. Set apart a bit of time just to listen to His Voice (remember you have to 1st empty your mind of that schedule thing and that To Do list thing, that's what the 3X5 card is for). Oh also, don't forget to read the prayers of the 'older men'. Remember I am going to teach you that there is a way to talk to God that is even sweeter than that Z-Serve!

Power & Constraint

I have a friend who designs Wakeboards - innovative ones that are easy to get up on and a slightly different format, (you can face forward, rather than sideways). They are about to go mass market pretty soon.

His innovations continue - he is an 'inventor' to the core! One day as he was testing his board he noticed, on a jetski, the plume of H2O that flies out the back & swings around like some kindof tail. He wants that on his Wakeboard! So he has been in design mode creating systems that will force the river under the board (also giving it more balance) and out the back in a CONSTRAINED force that will plume out behind the riders feet! It is so cool!

So he has been placing all kinds of tubes & funnels under the board (and through the back) and getting a variety of results. If the funnel is too big it pools under the board making it less efficient. If the funnel is too small the plume is a trickle - and not as cool looking.

Well this got me to thinking about Jesus & the love of God. You know that verse "For the Love of God CONSTRAINS us." (2 Corinthians 5:14). So here is the image I get: Just like the Wakeboard has all that power of H2O driving under the board and being constrained into a tight stream out of the back - so is the Love of God in my life!

The Love of God is immeasurable. It is too abundant for any human to understand. Did you know that while you were still a sinner (standing on the opposite side from God) He died for you (Romans 5:8) - so that you might know Him?! As I go through my days skimming the surface of life - He provides an immeasurable force - that keeps me afloat, keeps me moving, keeps me disciplined (think about Peter walking on the water).

And then there is that cool plume - of God's constrained love that forces out of my life into whatever situation I face. So for instance... To love the hard to love person - God's constrained love pouring through my life gives me the ability to love him. To speak the truth of what I know about God to those that don't know it. I might lack courage but God's constrained love gives me the courage to initiate and speak and he even provides the right words.

So what is my response? Really, it is nothing. I don't have to do anything. But it will certainly help if I can make sure I don't "cork" the plume.

Ask Him to allow His love to flow powerfully through our lives! Oh yeah and try not to lose balance.

Spiritual Life, Is it like my car?

I drive a Toyota Celica.

 I love it. 

I cannot go to a gas station or a shopping center parking lot without someone coming up to me and talking to me about "My Car." Stuff like - "I had one of those back in '99." Or "Wow, is that a Porsche?" (I'm not kidding!). or "That was my dream car in High School." or "Love the Toyota, man!" 

Externally, My car is a beauty! There are a couple dings, or places where paint is peeling. But those just give it character. It fact those are symbols of the battle that the car has been in.  But other than those character-building scars the car looks GREAT! And I know that because of all the people that affirm my identity for driving the car.  I feel 'cooler' when I drive my car!  

Now the Celica, has another persona. It is old. It has 210,000 miles. There are things that are not going well for the car. Actually some of the things could be repaired, but for a number of reasons I just let them go. Why? 

First, it runs OK without the repair. 

Second, the repairs are costly. 

Third, as compared to other cars on the road the Celica looks pretty good.

Fourth, no one will notice if I make the repair or not.

I have learned to work around the quirks in the car.  So at times when someone is in the car with me I feel like I need to explain the problems to my new passenger.  In reality, the passengers could probably care less, but because the car is so excellent on the outside I feel the need to justify what is going on internally. 

So what's so wrong? 

Well 1st, the transmission is going. It's an automatic. And it has lost the transitional gear. Roughly it has lost the ability to shift from 1st to 2nd to 3rd. So I have figured out a way to go directly from 1st to 3rd. I have adjusted my driving style so that I don't need to use 2nd gear!  In order to restore 2nd gear the transmission needs major surgery! The car is probably worth it, but I just do not have the money to do it.  

Next, the car takes a long time to start. It has to warm up before the engine will idle on its own. The best Toyota repair guy in town, can't trim the idle correctly.  When I asked him about it he said in his best broken english - "Your car is old, leave foot on gas pedal, $200 dollars.

Next, the sunroof is broken.  Not only does it not open, but after a big rain, it leaks a waterfall the 1st time I put on brakes.  Usually surprising me because I forget about it between rainstorms.  And surprising a passenger who sits in the wet seat. 

There are a number of other things and new problems are popping up everyday.  

So how does this relate to my spiritual life? Well I became a Christian in March 1972. It was a pretty radical transformation. I mean I went from going in one direction, very satisfied, to going in the complete opposite direction with several major improvements. I immediately stopped cussing & I began to have compassion for people that I previously didn't like. 

So I learned all the good things to do as a young believer. Read the Bible, pray, memorize scripture, church, disciple & be discipled, journal, etc.  And I was good! I advanced through the ranks of the Christian community and was deemed a Christian leader at a young age.  I was on committees, led Bible studies, led Young Life clubs, helped start a church, shared my faith with non-believers and did all the "right things."  So externally I looked like a Toyota Celica! People commented on my faith and my deeds done. And I felt "cool". 

Sure there were a few dings and rough edges, but those just added to my character. They were like battle scars. 

Internally, there were a few things that were not going well for my spiritual life. 

So as you  follow this analogy... There are things wrong on the inside that no one sees.  I run fine without the repairs.  Why don't I do the "soul work" necessary to be running well on the inside:

First, I  do OK without the repairs.

Second the repairs will be  costly.

Third as compared to other Christians I still look and act pretty good.

Fourth, I can live without anyone noticing if I make the repairs.

So what is wrong?

Well first I do well in the whole Bible reading Bible study area. It is a huge priority and I teach others how to do it, but my conversations with God are weak at best.  It's like trying to live spiritually without second gear. 

Secondly, I do well when I get started in the morning, but my "idle" has more to do with output than intake.  In other words my "soul time" is frequently more connected to the ministry than personal. So I read and study so that I have something to offer students. 

Thirdly, I leak, like the sunroof. I don't retain the spiritual nurture that I try to retain. It goes in one part of my life and goes out another without ever staying around long enough to make a difference.

I have made a repair plan this Christmas. I am going to do the costly repairs to begin to get my soul to be in good shape.  The Celica will have to wait.

 

LAC(K)

Oh so much to say...

I will start with the most recent. In a conversation just yesterday, I was talking to a senior at the college and a recent graduate. The graduate is hard at work and accomplishing great things. Let's talk about that (his life) for a minute.----

On campus, for all 4 years this fellow was an active part of ministry. He had much energy and much enthusiasm. He had a vision to reach the lost, but also was intent on building a significant community. He had a core small group that met for the entire time of college - in fact they still meet on occasions after graduation. He was always involved in ministry leadership and made a key impact on the programs he was involved with. He invited friends to be with him - to learn more about following Christ. He was intentional and generous in time and resources.

Since graduation, he has continued to be involved in ministry. He is involved in the local church, assists with a youth group, occasionally meets with the pastor. He continues to connect with his core community from college. He has developed new communities - a couple new roommates, new church friends and people from work. He is active in community sports - as a way to recreate as well as to be involved in the world (building relationships for the Gospel).

Yet there is a difference in his, I can't think of the right word or concept here, focus, maybe, satisfaction - hmm! I'm at a loss... At any rate he is not as satisfied in his efforts at spiritual growth as he was in college. Things happened so much faster in college and the buzz surrounding an activity generated so fast on campus. Also, the pool was smaller - the focus was on the 1 sq. mile that is W&M. Now, in the marketplace, he deals with an area about 50 sq. miles. Also rather than an age span of 18-25 years old he now deals with a spread of 23-50 years old.  It's not that the ministry he is doing is any less significant, but it seems like a whole lot harder to detect growth or movement. 

As for the senior, he is at the other end of the ministry spectrum.  On campus much of the significant work revolves around his community.  Every day he is in significant discussions/ Bible studies on the things of God.  He has the disposable time and the core relationships to facilitate this discussion.  But his apprehensions are related to what is the next step in his life.  Is it the ministry, the marketplace, the mission field or more education? And how will he grow spiritually when he makes this transition? The easy answer is whatever the destination the Lord in His faithfulness will take him on a much different path.  It could be harder or easier. But there is no place in God's kingdom for encores.  This time, in college is used as preparation for whatever the next step is. 

I have thoughts about how the Church is not ready for the onslaught of new graduates - yet the new graduates are ready and energetic enough to take on the church. I'll reserve these thoughts for a later post.

So what did I offer these 2 men, Ugh, I think I failed miserably in my advice, although I think I listened well.  What would I say if I could recapture the moment?

1) Go to the place where you can grow in dependence on God the most.

2) Read the Word, every day.  It is a lost discipline.

3) Be intentional about relationships - old friends as well as new ones.

4) Find a Barnabas, find a Timothy.

5) Pray without ceasing.

-504

WOW, what a day!

Several large money centers collapsed or almost. The Dow Jones Industrial Average dropped 4.4%. The lowest point since everyone sold their stocks on 9/11/01 & 9/12/01. Things & institutions that we relied on are disappearing.

I was in a conversation last night with someone who felt like this was the end. She wasn't reassured when I said - "Oh yea sooner to be with Jesus!"

So what is it? Is it the signs of the end? Well it could be. And I don't want to rule it out. I'm preparing... Asking forgiveness of those I've hurt, Confessing sin to God, speaking the Gospel to those who need to hear it, getting "Oil for my lamps", as it were!

But it could also be a huge "buying opportunity" - just kidding, kindof!

It could also be the radical reaction of many greedy people making too many stupid decisions. Also taking unjust advantages of those who really should not have been leveraging their lives & life savings for what seems like a little equity.

Golly Day! You & I both know that if you loan money to someone who does not have the long term capability to repay it - then you consider that a "gift". When you offer tons of people money for property (collateral) then you are putting your equity at risk! You might end up with a lot of property - which you won't be able to distribute. And no cash...

When we (not me, of course) as money-lenders take advantage of those who are trying to make it work, by charging huge interest rates, when they have limited resources to repay then our greed dominates our compassion and we end up with a lot of bad loans (gifts, as an example).

When we have re-acquired overvalued property that the main population does not want to purchase. Then we've hurt 2 people - the former possessors of the property who are over their heads in debt and those who now have the overvalued property they can't sell.

Greed dictates our lifestyle.

Wouldn't it be nice to revert to the old testament model of The Year of Jubilee? Every 49 years all debt is forgiven and all property goes back to the original owners. This really decreases the overall drive for greed & possession.

But what do we do now that we do not live in the year of Jubilee?

Pray for wisdom.
Look for opportunities to help people see Jesus.
Don't be stupid about money.
Pay off as much debt as you can.
Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind & strength!

I'm not an economist, or the son of a prophet, but I did stay in a Holiday Inn last night!

A Christian's Prayer

Blessed God,
Ten thousand snares are mine without and within, defend thou me;
When sloth and indolence seize me, give me views of heaven;
When sinners entice me, give me disrelish of their ways;
When sensual pleasures tempt me, purify and refine me;
When I desire worldly possessions, help me to be rich toward thee;
When the vanities of the world ensnare me, let me not plunge into new guilt and ruin;
May I remember the dignity of my spiritual release,
never be too busy to attend to my soul,
never be so engrossed with time that I neglect the things of eternity;
thus may I not only live but grow towards towards thee.
Form my mind to right notions of religion, that I may not judge of grace by wrong conceptions, nor measure my spiritual advances by the efforts of my natural being.
May I seek after an increase of divine love to thee,
after unreserved resignation to thy will,
after extreme benevolence to my fellow creatures,
after patience and fortitude of soul,
after a heavenly disposition,
after a concern that I may please thee in public and private.
Draw on my soul the linements of Christ, in every trace and feature of which thou wilt take delight, for I am -
thy workmanship, created in Christ Jesus,
thy letter written with the Holy Spirit's pen,
thy tilled soil ready for the sowing, then harvest.

From The Valley of Vision, p.109

New Creation...

I have been mulling over 2 Corinthians 5:17-21 this week. Well actually I am speaking on it tomorrow night at InterVarsity's Large Group.

So the first verse says: "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he or she is a new creation. The old has gone, the new has come!" This was the first verse I committed to memory, using the Navigators Topical Memory System. And in that day, in my newness in Christ it meant so much! I could leave behind all of the junk of my life. I could be made NEW, a new creation as it were.

Those things that got me down could now be turned over to God - He was the one re-making me! So anger, fear, envy, jealousy, lust, pride - all of those old things that controlled me could be GONE. my life would be marked by the Newness that was part of God's kingdom! I would be a man of love, a man of prayer, a man of the Bible. I would preach the Gospel at all times and use words only when necessary. I would pet dogs, hold kittens (well maybe not that), help old ladies across the street, feed the hungry, care for the infirmed and on and on.

I was really looking forward to this new life. Now 36 years later, How am I doing? Oh yes, He has made me a new creation! There is nothing of old Marty (or was it Martin, back then) left. I think differently. I act differently. I am different. I am a child of the King. I know it everyday. There is nothing like it! And even if I were not "paid to be good", I would still be marked by Him, His grace, His love.

But I still carry around those old sins, those OLD traits that used to drag me down before He made me new. How can that be? I am still self-centered, still envious, still angry - like yesterday when my computer got a virus that crippled the OS! ##@$%%@@**)(##!

Well no easy answers on this one - but perhaps... Is this the way He knows that I will continue to be dependent on Him. If he completely made me NEW, I would be perfect or close to it and not have a need to come to Him regularly. But if I remain a NEW CREATION in a flawed state in order to continue to be made new I will have to continue to come to Him and rest In Him!

what is this tendancy to be Hush-Hush when someone becomes a Christian

Yes I don't get it!

It seems to me that one of the greatest celebrations that can be had is the entry of someone into the kingdom of God. Especially since for many of us - the subject has been the object of prayer for weeks, months, or even years. For some reason, it seems like we do not express this miracle very well.

We make it seem like it is no big deal - "Thanks for joining." or "You'll have to come back next week." In reality, it seems like this event is one that has all the angels in heaven rejoicing! Can you imagine that All of the angels in heaven rejoice (have a huge party) when just one sinner repents and enters into the Kingdom of God!.

I have even had some students tell me: There is a guy in 'Dupont' that has accepted Christ. I'll say: "That is great! Let's go talk to him and welcome him!" And their reply will be - "Well let's just wait until he tells you - we don't want him to feel awkward."

Awkward, are you kidding! This is the greatest moment of his life! 100 times more significant than his acceptance to W&M.

Let us make a commitment this year - When we hear about someone making a personal commitment to Christ or a return to acceptance of the Christian Faith that we honor him or her with a personal visit or conversation. We introduce him to our friends, our small group leaders, our IV staff, our pastors, and anyone else who would help us throw a party for this lost one who is now found.

This is Ministry!

I attended a Leadership conference recently - the Summit sponsored by Willow Creek Community Church and Bill Hybels. There was so much good stuff offered by the speakers, interviews and extra resources. I loved it and learned so much.

There was one talk by Hybels where he was giving us his AXIOMS (a new book he has published). You know AXIOMS; they are those pithy statements that communicate profound things in a few words.

One AXIOM was "This is Church!" And what it communicates around Willow is that when something is hard or shows a dose of reality - they will say "Well, this is Church." It has nothing to do with the meeting or the program or the building or the things that run right, but it has everything to do with going through the tunnel of chaos with those we rub shoulders with everyday. For instance, when there is a man in the church who serves faithfully, gives generously, provides for his family, is always available for whatever will benefit the fellowship goes through the tunnel of chaos (or as Dick Woodward says: "Going through the Wringer."). Perhaps he gets a bad report from the Doc, or loses his job, or some financial issue - and the people around the church meet him where he is at and bring to him the Grace of God. Hybels' folk say - "Well, this is Church." This communicates that life is hard, and often unexplainable, but when the people of God come around the needs of hurting people. - well, this is church! Does that make sense?

So I am starting to do some of this applying myself. I have seen and talked to a lot of people this summer: friends, family, InterVarsity staff, WM alumni, missionaries, new acquaintances, etc. There are a lot of people going through the wringer! There is a lot of hurt out there. And while this idea of CHURCH applies in the general sense - much of what I do is more itinerant, or independent - rather when I visit with someone, I don't necessarily represent a particular church. I am a pastor, but not of a particular congregation - I am a floater, as it were! So if I started saying "This is Church" people would ask me, "Where?" So I think a parallel that would work for me is "Well, this is ministry." As I walk through the Tunnel of Chaos with people I want to be able to look up to the Lord and say: "Well, this is ministry. Well, this is what the ministry is all about! Well, this is what you've called me to do."

The Perscription for a Perfect Men's Weekend...

1) A group of guys with a large affinity.
2) A great location.
3) Several sedentary activities: newspapers, books, Wii, PS3, iPOD, Karaoke, guitars, piano, lots of good couches & cushy chairs, a big deck outside, lots of beds (Rule # 1 of Men's retreats - One Man, One Bed), etc
4) Lots of good food: BBQ, Apple Pie, Chips & Salsa, Eggs & Bacon, Grits, Ham & Turkey, variety of good beverages
5) Several active activities: Basketball, Swimming Pool, Tennis Courts,
6) A fine dining establishment - for more good food & a chance to get out of the house at least once during the weekend.
7) opportunities for worship and Bible study
8) A set of questions to encourage honest, authentic deep sharing:

In an effort to help us share, and to stir some things up that can be followed up in free time, please answer the following questions. I encourage you to type/write answers and bring copies for everyone. Preparation will help you streamline your own thoughts, but also allow sharing to move forward without rambling. It will also allow us to make some notes, and give us good threads to follow up with you during free time.

What are any significant events that have happened over the last year/since our time together?

What is one Epiphany that you have had over the last year?

Who are you sharing your life with? Who are you mentoring? Who are you allowing into your life?

What have you been reading?

What is on your iPod that you should share? (New Music, good Podcasts, etc)

What have you been watching (Movies, but perhaps TV)?

What are your new hobbies/Fun activities?

How do the brothers need to hold you accountable/encourage you?

What is going on in job and what are you excited about in your job?

Where will your job/career be in 5-10 years from now?

What has been the most fun you have had this last year (or Highlight of your year) and why?

The above are the ones I would like us all to answer. However, you are free to share what you think is important. To get you thinking, here are some “stir the pot” questions

Overall/Spiritual
What has God been teaching you?
What have been the significant events in your family of origin, marriage, children, church, job, friendships?
What have you been confessing lately?

Spouse and Family
What has been the biggest joy/improvement in your marriage?
How have you not loved your spouse?
What have been the biggest struggles in your Marriage?
What has been your biggest struggle as a parent?
What have you enjoyed seeing in your children? What has scared you/Sent you to your knees?

Church
Describe your current church involvements and situation
What have been your disappointments? What have been your biggest encouragements?
What is your vision for your church, and your involvement in it?

Job
Brief update and overview
What do you hate about your job?

Personal
Who are your key relationships in your community/church?
What have you done to challenge yourself lately?
What has become more important than sex for you?
What are your new hobbies/Fun activities?

My 54 Years in 54 Sentences or so...

1954 - Sports Illustrated magazine is first published. Earl & Esther Purks give birth to a son, me in Washington, DC.

1955 - The phrase "In God We Trust" is added to all US Currency. I learn to crawl following "Skippy" the bird.

1956 - Don Larsen pitches a perfect game in the World Series. I "steal" my dad's bank book from his shirt pocket every night. 

1957 - Schools in Little Rock, AR are integrated with the help of the US Army. I watch my Uncle count all the bricks in my house. 

1958 - Elvis Presley receives his draft notice. I runaway from my mom on 14th St in DC.

1959 - Alaska & Hawaii officially become states. I visit Ocean City, MD for the 1st time.

1960 - Elvis is discharged from Army. I runaway from my family in my neighborhood, My dad had the police looking for me.

1961 - Bob Dylan debuts. I make kids in my neighborhood sing my song: "Martin the Great"

1962 - The President of the United States acquired 1200 Cuban Cigars the day before the Cuban embargo. My Fam & I moved to Richmond, VA.

1963 - CS Lewis, Aldous Huxley & John F. Kennedy die on the same day. When the President was shot all the adults were quiet. I liked helping my dad work in his restaurant.

1964 - Beatles are first heard in the US. I like music - 45RPMs.

1965 - Martin Luther King Jr marches from Selma to Montgomery. Neighborhood boys (Randall, Randy, Carl & I) played sports every afternoon.

1966 - Indira Gandhi becomes Prime Minister of India. I enter J.R. Tucker School as a 7th Grader. 

1967 - Super Bowl I. I quit band and start playing football.

1968 - RFKennedy is slain in LA. MLKing is slain in Ga. I start to notice girls.

1969 - First man on the moon! I stay up all night to see it on TV.

1970- Redskins fall to 6-8, I end my tenure as a 'Skins fan FOREVER.

1971 - NPR's "All Things Considered" debuts. I am appointed Chaplain of Tucker HS FCA. I read the "Scroll" of the Lord's Prayer every week.

1972 - Watergate Scandal erupts. Tucker HS YL Club begins. I met Jesus Christ. Discipled by Doug Holladay.

1973 - Secretariat wins the Triple Crown. I met Carolyn Smith, after an unrequited 'crush' on her older sister.

1974 - The end of the UCLA basketball winning streak (88). I joined YL staff in Richmond, VA (Tucker HS). Discipled by Tuck Knupp.

1975 - "Jaws" is released in the summer. I am busy trying to squeeze 4 years into 5 of college education. I coach JV football at Tucker.

1976 - Apple Computer begins (Jobs & Wozniak). I graduated from VCU. I work as a Assistant Data Input Comptroller for Miller & Rhoads.

1977 - Seattle Slew wins the Triple Crown. My dad passes away peacefully. I manage a restaurant. Midlothian HS YL club began.

1978 - Affirmed wins the Triple Crown. Hopewell HS YL began. I marry Carolyn Smith

1979 - Margaret Thatcher becomes PM of England. Monacan YL club began. Discipled by Tim Keller.

1980 - The 1st personal computer is released. Meadowbrook HS YL club began. I was ordained for the ministry.

1981 - Walter Cronkite retires. We move to Heidelberg Germany! Skiing in Austria.

1982 - West Germany is in the World Cup finals (we were living there at the time!) Heidelberg HS YL club began. Skiing in Switzerland. I coach football & wrestling at Heidelberg HS.

1983 - "Beat it" by Michael Jackson hits #1. 100 Heidelberg kids to Greece. Swimming in the Aegean Sea.

1984- Winter Olympics in Sarajevo. Heidelberg MS WYLD Life club began. I play the "Old Course" & par "The Road Hole" Tripp Purks enters the world. Skiing in Sarajevo.

1985 - New Coke rises & falls in one year! Skiing in Italy. 75 Heidelberg Kids to Tunisia. We move to Williamsburg, VA.  I start college discipling and move away from HS evangelism.

1986 - Elie Wiesel wins the Nobel Peace Prize. Developing College leaders for the church of the future. Discipled by Mel Rosche

1987 - Ronald Reagan: "Mr Gorbachev, Tear Down That (Berlin) Wall!" Bobby Purks enters the world. "I work in the 4/40 window - 4 years of preparation for 40 years of ministry."

1988 - A series of evangelists resign from public ministry after confessing to sexual sin.  Josh McDowell speaks the Gospel to 900 at W&M. It is really hard in 1988 to stand with fallen men who stood for the Gospel. Discipled by Dick Woodward

1989 - The Berlin Wall is broken down. Barnabas-Paul-Timothy ministry. Ft. Lauderdale Evangelism Project with 25 W&M students.

1990 - East and West Germany are reunited. Habitat for Humanity Hurricane Hugo Relief, the 1st IVIS project.

1991 - Ukraine is independent of from the Soviet Union. Chuck Colson speaks the Gospel to 800 at W&M.

1992 - US Troops land in Somalia.  I start re-collecting sports cards.

1993 - Branch Davidian Compound invaded by ATF agents. The Coffeehouse opens in Williamsburg.

1994 - Rawandan Genocide.  

1995 - Rock and Roll Hall of Fame opens. I learn "Star Wars" & "Pokemon" card games. I start to spend time with the "'98 Fellas" 

1996 - Mother Teresa granted honorary citizenship in US. We took a Sabbatical to Europe.  I spent 3 weeks with C.S. Lewis' stepson. 

1997 - Princess Diana and Mother Theresa die. I begin a Fraternity & Sorority Ministry at W&M.

1998 - Cal "Ironman" Ripken breaks consecutive game record (2632) founded. Aroma's Opens on Prince George St. G+0=RSWG

1999 - Columbine Massacre kills 15. "Greek Impact" is born on the bus ride back from Indy Greek Conference.

2000 - AOL buys Time-Warner. The Daily Grind opens at Lodge 2 location. I begin to hang out with the " '03 Guys"

2001 - 9/11 @ WTC 1. "I agree with Sam" speaks the gospel to 700 W&M students.

2002 - VA & MD Snipers paralyzes travellers. My mom dies peacefully. 

2003 - Space Shuttle Columbia disintegrates on re-entry into the atmosphere. "Hurrication Isabel" closes Campus for 10 days! Campus Alpha Course on campus.

2004 - Mel Gibson's "The Passion of the Christ" is released. Pancake House Outreach is launched on campus.

2005 - Pope John Paul II dies. Learning to walk beside the brothers.

2006 - "Crash" wins best picture.  Learning Agape

2007 - VT massacre 32 killed. I spend the year learning about forgiveness

2008 - Earthquakes & Cyclones kill thoudsands in Asia. Learning to live & speak Gospel.

Authenticity

I know authenticity is the key word these days on people 'getting into church'. If it is not Authentic then this generation doesn't want anything to do with it!

So what does Authenticity mean, really? WIKI tells me that it refers to the courage to live one's life according to the needs of one's inner being rather than the demands of society, external factors or one's early conditioning.

In a faith community I think it means living life not by saying the right thing, but by telling the real circumstances, the real story. I might know what I "Should" do, but in my plodding along I practice a different thing.

What do I hear on campus?
" I don't go to church because I find the sermons and stories I hear are not Authentic."
"The church is full of hypocrites"
" How can I attend a church that talks about a loving God, but then openly rejects 10% of the population"
" I don't think anyone is capable of living authentically"
"Once you show me a community based on faith & authenticiy then I will pursue your community."

OK, then what is one to do? I feel living authentically is so hard in society. Perhaps I am open and honest with one group (to a certain respectful level, of course) but I can't maintain that level of honesty with everyone. Also, I am in a bit of a fishbowl as a Christian leader (well I really am). So I think that controls what I can share openly - I hope I am not just playing that game because I have been assimilated to believe it. If I practice a habit, that is unpopular in the conventional Christian community. I certainly would be open to share it with my core friends, (especially if they are prone to practice it with me), and I might even tell a broader audience. But would I "Shout it from the Housetops" or say it from the pulpit (fortunately, my ministry does not put me in the pulpit very often). Probably not! Does that limit my AUTHENTICITY? Well I hope not, but how can I tell?

In a recent conversation with a young man, we were talking about qualities of discipling, or disciplemaking. I asked what is the most memorable quality of your mentor. By the way, I said that the most memorable quality of my mentors has been their willingness to take me to the next level in Christ. This young man said that the thing that drew him into this mentoring relationship was the discipler's Authenticity! I said: "What do you mean?" His reply: "Growing up in a religious home, I saw all of the inconsistency of the message from the pulpit and the behavior at home! But this mentor, boldly told me his flaws! He shared that he was unloving to family & friends, broken in morals, prone to wander, but God was still real and changing him everyday."

Could he be that honest & authentic with everyone? Well I think not, but I don't know how far to throw the net. Who gets included in my circle of authenticity?